In my life the biggest decisions I’ve made have come with great clarity. I'm a Libra. .. and if you believe what the charts say.. . decision making comes hard for us. We are good at seeing all sides of situations. This is a great trait to have, especially if you are a licensed therapist like myself. But, when it comes to trying to make decisions in my life, I can get tripped up by what is commonly known as “analysis paralysis.” But let me get back to my first remark. Over time I’ve learned to accept this about myself and trust that when something is right, it’s right. Indecision, fear, the back and forth of should I or shouldn’t I disappears and I just know.
Such was the case in regards to taking on this endeavor as the Counseling Caddie. For years I’ve felt a need to take on a project that was creative and utilized the things that I've learned in this field, from my training, conversations with my clients and going through life. Over the years I tried a number of things from consultation, to working in the hospital to teaching and supervision. All were fabulous experiences that I would never say didn’t help me to become a stronger and more experienced and knowledgeable clinician. But all lacked the kind of passion that I recently found in this idea to be the Counseling Caddie.
For those who know me, I love to play golf. It wasn’t always the case. But once my son was born, I really took to the game. I was encouraged by my husband to have an outlet in life and so it became Tuesday morning golf with the ladies. This was an incredible experience as I had the pleasure of playing with inspirational women who were in their late 60’s and 70’s. We all showed up each week because of the love of the game. It was a great introduction to what would become my life passion.
Years went by raising kids...working... and golf for me would be more focused on my son and his game. I still managed to get rounds in throughout the year, but as with any family, time and resources have a limit and so golf would sometimes be on the back burner to other commitments in life.
As time passed I came to learn how the work I was doing in the office was a great fit to my time on the course. See, I’m a brief therapist. Brief Therapy is a mode of therapy that is behavioral based. We look at problem-solving and finding solutions to the concerns people have in their lives. We focus on people’s strengths and we look at exceptions to problems. We are action oriented and very resourceful. Turns out you need all of these skills if you are going to manage your golf game as well as your life.
And so it happened. On a day where I got off work early, I met up with my husband and this idea erupted, with great clarity I might add. I had been bitter about some missed opportunities in my field. Ideas that I had, and didn’t pursue for this that and the other reason. But this night, the anger subsided and a new found energy came about. Take what I’ve learned as a counselor and help those who also have a passion for the game of golf and teach people how golf is a metaphor for life. Use the ideas and strategies we learn playing golf and apply them to some of the tougher situations we have in our relationships, at work and within ourselves.
In the coming videos and blogs, I hope to share with you some of the ideas that work for me on and off the course and help you see how things that may feel overwhelming, impossible and unmoveable can become more manageable and possible to change. I hope to surprise you as to how resourceful you really are.
I’m pleased to present myself as the Counseling Caddie. I hope the material that follows inspires all of us to work on our game, on and off the course ..